We find ourselves grativating towards new and exciting people who support our dreams and values, interact with our facebook posts etc, but notice that the 'old' friends don't value what we're doing enough to give a few moments a day to interact with us. So do we focus purely on the friends that challenge & support us with their caring presence, or do we try to salvage 'outgrown' friendships too?

Obviously there is no 'right or wrong' way about it, but I notice people asking me about 'how to move on from outgrown friendships', and people bringing up ideas around nurturing friends that are congruent with who we really are VS sticking around when friendships seem empty and outgrown.

Of course we can change our perceptions and gain new appreciation and depth to existing friendships if we both make that effort, but what if one of us just stays bogged down in our stuff and doesn't want to grow? I'm just quite interested in this whole friendship dynamic! I notice that the people surrounding me change as I do, and my friends do seem to reflect 'where I'm at' a great deal.

We tend get alot of guilt for feeling like we are 'rising above' others, when we chose to move on, and the friends we 'leave behind' do tend to resent us if we don't communate from the heart about it. But how can we really be above anyone else anyway? Doesn't it just come down to our values changing? Even if we overcome alot of inner adversity and find more inspiration in some areas of our lives, our friends are still more developed than us in other ways, so it's never about being better or higher.

I think most of us relate to this, so I want to hear your honest thoughts. Should we be more accepting of the dynamic of friendships coming and going as we flow from resonating closer to more distantly from the people around us? Or do we take charge and make the most of what we have?